Anonymous asked: Yo Rhay, I've got a problem with making decisions. For some reason it's hard for me to decide on things in my everyday life and I'm aware that this is unattractive to women. How can I get rid of my indecisiveness and choose what I want without hesitation?
I’m going to be very blunt with you. Nobody feels sorry for you, the sooner you realize that then we can move to a place where we can communicate better. You must be ruthless with the emotions and people that you allow into your life, negative emotions will paralyze you and prevent you from taking action. Whereas positive emotions will put you in a state of vitality, and liveliness. It sounds simple, because it is. Men tend to make it harder on themselves, when the solution is very simple. You’re either a man that is sitting around feeling miserable, or you’re a man who is excited about his life and is constantly improving himself. I think the whole “picking up” girls thing confuses a lot of guys, because they want women for the wrong reasons. They feel as if they have attractive women in their life, then they will feel better about who they are as men. It makes no sense whatsoever, but a lot of men believe this. The point is this…It doesn’t matter what or who you bring into your life, if you don’t change the way you feel about yourself then all of it is useless. You shouldn’t be improving your life for the sole reason of “getting” girls, you should be improving yourself for your own benefit. Fuck getting girls, what do you want to do with your life? Don’t you think that is more important? If you have hobbies pursue them, if you have interests pursue them. Even if it means taking a little step at a time. You’re not going to learn all of this overnight, you must look at this process as something that you’re constantly going to improve for the rest of your life. I remember when I was first getting into this kind of stuff, I would spend at least two hours every morning reading. Its a small change, but it has made a huge impact on my life. I don’t want to get girls, I wanted to improve myself…. It just so happens that I noticed that women started to respond differently to me in a positive way. Why? Because I wasn’t concerned with trying to impress them, I was only worried about making something out of myself.
Don’t worry about “getting” girls for now, worry more about becoming a better man. A lot of guys want beautiful women, but don’t want to become men that women are attracted to. Women are attracted to men who is confident, dominant, and above all ambitious. Ambition is the highest quality a man can have that can make him attractive. One trait that all ambitious men have in common, is that they all have something more important going on in their lives besides women. They don’t stop what they’re doing to chase women, they chase their dreams and women tag along. They don’t have one ounce of neediness, because they are already internally fulfilled. It doesn’t matter if a woman likes them or not, because it won’t change the way they feel about themselves. They have a plan, and they stick to it. Everything about you must be congruent. If you say that you want to better your life, then you must take actions to bettering it. Just talking about it isn’t going to get you any results. I know a lot of guys who I privately mentor who read all the books I give them and learn absolutely nothing. Why? Its because they didn’t understand the importance of putting into practice what they read. Don’t just read my words, incorporate them into your life. Take responsibility and stop making excuses. Just sitting around feeling sorry for yourself just isn’t going to cut it anymore. The thing is….Once you start to venture outside of yourself, you will see how everything is connected. I know all of this sounds tough, and it is….But I promise that it is worth it. Start doing everything for your own benefit, and not social approval and you will gain more respect. Anything that makes you a smarter person, also makes you a more attractive person.
May God bless you.